Hello, how i make a married Afrikaans guy to divorce?
Hello, I am a foreigner (Swiss) , living in SA. I am very much in love with a colleague. he is married, with 2 little kids, he is Afrikaans. I know that he is interested in me, and things seem quite promising. But i don't want him only as a lover, I want more. Any advise or suggestions? Thanks
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1 :
Buy him tickets to rugby final ,and tell him he very good with his boerevors.
2 :
Find someone else. I know it's not what you want to hear, but seriously. The man has a wife and kids.. if he has a roaming eye now, you really aren't going to change that. Getting together with a guy that would drop his wife and young kids for someone would only come back to hurt you in the end.. he'll more than likely do the same to you.
3 :
tell him he braai's good
4 :
Compromise. . . set his wife up with a male lover whom you can trust. Let your friend give you information about their rendezvous and then have a Private Eye take video and still photos. Let her husband file for divorce and you have him, however, depending on the circumstances, he may be paying out money to her for the kids etc. Hey BTW, I also had a love affair going with some Swiss woman at Grundelwald. We met while hiking up the trails to Jung Frau mountain. . .we made love on the pine needles in the woods along the slopes. I also befriended the local barber who blew the Alp Horn in the evenings. . .We hiked up on the opposite slopes from where he was and made love to the sounds of cowbells and Alp Horn. Oh I could write a book on my travel experiences, however, back to your problem. . . .Just have the affair and in time it will fade and melt away just leaving you with good memories and fantasies.
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Swiss eh, ï‹ Those of you, who think you know everything, are annoying those of us who do. Ever stop to think, and forget to start again? He’s married doesn’t take a genius to figure that one out. Go Play with some one else!! Preferably not with a married man!!
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Why ... in the end he will divorce you as well, and he is not in the market, but spoken for
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So basically you want to destroy a family and build a relationship based on that. An ex wife and her family who will hate you, step children who will hate you and a husband who will resent you in the future for breaking up his family, causing his kids to hate him etc. Sounds like a fairy tale relationship. I hope you get everything you deserve in life. ADD: Dirk,I don't know what kind of people you hang out with but I would not associate with someone who thinks this way or behaves this way.
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It's women like you that give other women a bad name. If he wanted to be with you, he would already be with you. Why would want to be so selfish as to break up a family?? And what does it say about yourself that you are willing to be a married man's lover and that you are willing to break up a family to get what you want. To me it says that you are low!!
9 :
Buy him biltong and rugby tickets
10 :
leave him alone. have some respect for yourself and find someone available. he is taken. if you don't respect yourself, at least think about the fact that you're willing to break up a family! how awful! what a lousy start to a relationship if you have to plan and plot to "get" him. come on, get a grip. right now, you're feeding his ego and he like it of course. things are not promising, you're setting yourself up for a huge fall lady, move on and do the world a favour. think of his wife and the kids and get your own man!
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After you have made some progress in the relationship, you should just ask him where he thinks this is going. If he can not give you a straight answer about leaving his wife, you should move on. A lot of married men have affairs with no intention of ever leaving their wife or kids. Don't get dragged along in a relationship that leads nowhere.
12 :
Boere's have too much pride. That is their strength and weakness. Play with his pride use it to your advantage then you will have him. I guarantee it.
13 :
Firstly, you live in South Africa , do as the South Africans do!!!!!!!!! Stay the hell away from married people. You seem to have been in love, for three years by the looks of your previous Q+A's, and he has still not divorced his wife. Leave him alone, he is quite happy with his wife and children, and of course his little "side-kick" (that is you by the way), and that is all you will ever be to him.
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Stay away from him HE IS MARRIED Its women like YOU who F things up. If he thinks he is interested in you then he just wants to sleep with you. In most cases he will not leave his family to run off with a booty call. Be smater, dont downgrade yourself woman!! get a single OAK.
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Here is a suggestion, if you really want a South African man, our self proclaimed polygamist President, Jacob Zuma, is always in search of new wives, through his tradition he will even pay your family labola to take you as his wife, not sure which number, perhaps No.7. Here you can live a high profile life with a prominent leader and not even have to deal with any consequences of breaking up a marriage, you will also automatically have 20 or so step sons and daughters. Zuma, is your solution, so majestic that after sleeping with an hiv positive female he just had a shower to ensure that he would not contract the disease, Zuma is your man, look no further.
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